Take Back Your Power From Toxic & Difficult People

When our journey of recovery from pain leaves us in a vulnerable position our support people become even more important to us.  Having toxic people undermine and drain us can load even more insecurities around us  - but only when we allow them to have power of us!

"Toxic relationships not only make us unhappy; they corrupt our attitudes and dispositions in ways that undermine healthier relationships and prevent us from realising how much better things can be." - Michael Josephson

Quite often when we are in the situation of making a big decision we can go through a period of stress and uncertainty. We feel anxious, tired and drained and when we finally make the decision, the weight off our shoulders is such a great feeling. So it is fair to say that when we have toxic and difficult people in our lives, if we let them have the power to bring us down, then we will be in a constant state of anxiousness and depleted energy trying to deal with it.

So what steps can we take with toxic people for our own esteem and peace of mind?

If you have been in pain or in a dark place, then it's helpful to remember that toxic people are most likely in pain themselves. This helps to have an understanding of why they are behaving the way they do.

A great quote by Thich Nhat Hanh - "When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending."

However this isn't always the case and there are some people you just can't please and therefore the trick is to stop trying.

Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go so you can grow.

A good way to do this is to make a list of the people who energise you in your life. Then look at how you can spend more time with them. Having positive, happy and motivated people around you is contagious. Soak it up and revel in it!

Then ask yourself who in my life drains me or minimise me. These people will cause the opposite affect and you don't want to be the victim of their fear and insecurities. Look at how you can spend less time, or spend time differently, with them.

How do you allow people to drain and deplete you?

Some of the most toxic people can be family and friends. Be clear about your boundaries and don't let them have the power. You are in control of your own decisions. Know your own strengths and weaknesses so that what they think won't matter.

"Look into your heart. Deep down you know when someone is truly good for you - or not. It's just that sometimes we don't like the answer." - Emma-Louise Elsey

Renew You & Love Life

Debbie Xx

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