Manage Your Stress & Reconnect With You

What are your signs of stress?  How do I know when stress is taking me over?

Well first lets look at the definition of stress versus anxiety.  Is stress anxiety?

Stress and anxiety are part of the same bodily reaction and have similar symptons.  That means it can be hard to tell them apart.

Stress tends to be short term and in response to a recognised threat.  Anxiety can linger and can sometimes seem as if nothing is triggering it.

So the good news is, yes we can recognise the signs of stress and learn to know when stress is taking over.

Stress is a message from your emotions.  "It's time to slow down, to breathe deeply and to look after yourself".    The feeling of stress and anxiety, is your body's way of trying to keep you safe by bringing your attention to something your brain perceives as a threat.

"Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood" - Marie Curie.

Areas that you can look at to see where your source of stress is coming from could be;

Is it your health?  Are you worried  about a health condition that you need to check out our have had news that there is a health issue that you are going to have to deal with.

Your creativity?  Are you creating a problem that is causing you to stress and possibly not realising what you are doing.

Your friends and/or family?  Is someone you spend time with causing you stress.

At work?  A very common place for stress to occur, particularly if you are unhappy in your job.  

On social media?  Are you spending too much time and looking at the wrong things that are causing you stress.

We can't completely eliminate all of our stresses but we can certainly give it a good go and reduce the stress in our life.  If we don't try to eliminate these then as they linger on they will then start to cause more anxiety.

As Rebekah Ballagh suggests in her book "Note To Self" - All feelings are allowed.   It's easy to lean into emotions like happiness, excitement, joy and love ... But what about the trickier emotions?  It's much harder to accept feelings of stress, worry, sadness, guilt & anxiety because they are so uncomfortable.   But all emotions are valid and a normal part of being human.  Imagine if we learnt to treat our emotions like visitors;  acknowledging their arrival, welcoming them in, allowing them to be, hearing them out and then seeing them off as they leave.  

As Eda Le Shan said - "When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people.   The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be toward others."

So when your emotions are telling you that you are stressed, it's time to slow down, to breathe deeply and to look after yourself.

"Something's got to give, don't let it be you." - Steven Robbins.

STOP when you notice a feeling of anxiety or stress, stop what you are doing and press PAUSE.

TAKE a deep breath.   Now take several more.  Breathe slowly, deep into your belly.

OBSERVE.  Continue to breathe slowly and observe your thoughts.  Observe your body.   Notice your present experience.

PROCEED.  Press play and proceed with something helpful and useful to you in this moment.   Engage in self-care and be mindful about how you continue on in your day.

Stress comes when you resist.   Learn to accept and work with whatever happens.   Develop healthy habits to reduce your stress so that when you notice it, you can catch it early.

Renew You, Love Your Life

Debbie xx

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